Male-female relationships often seem exciting when they first start out, but over the years they often start to seem dull and routine. That is what Paul Simon wrote about in the 1968 Simon & Garfunkel song “Overs,” which his partner described in a live performance as being about “the point in a relationship where two people realize that it’s over and they have nowhere to go.” Thirteen years later, having been married and divorced, Simon revisited the theme in “Train in the Distance,” relating that “in a while they just fell apart. It wasn’t hard to do.” Sometimes couples cheat on each other for that reason.
Does this sound like you and your husband? If so, you should realize that there are ways to keep a relationship exciting long after that original spark has worn off. Everything new — a new job, a new home, a new school — soon becomes something that you take for granted. The challenge is not to take things for granted.
Keeping the fire burning
One way in which you can stay romantically attached is making each dinner an affair in itself. Make each date an occasion to discover new things, new kinks in each other — and to do so in a way that’s fun and interesting. To ensure that the meal is a greater commitment, be active, rather than passive, in its preparation. That is, whip up some delicious recipe of which you conceived or about which you just learned, rather than order takeout, and eat at the table rather than in front of the TV.
If you want to watch a movie, try making that a separate thing. You should choose one with a romantic theme, such as the classic Quiet Man starring John Wayne and Maureen O’Hara. Romancing the Stone might be an excellent choice if you feel that your relationship is really getting boring; it might help each of you to discover how adventurous the other can be. Visit at city of eve for more pleasure.
Go on a trip
An even better way to add adventure to your marriage is by going to exciting places. It need not be an expensive Caribbean cruise unless you can afford it; go to a park or other recreational place in your own area, and play a game like tennis together. Be sure you dress as attractively as possible for the occasion.
It is normal for both marriage partners, especially the wife, to have close friends of the same sex in whom they confide. Use those friendships to reinforce your marriage; ask them for advice on how to keep the flame alive, especially from those who are married.
Marriage is not something that happens once and for all. Like a plant in a garden, it takes continuous work to nurture and grow. Your relationship can be alive and exciting, or it can be dull and routine. It’s all up to you — both of you, that is.